Wow.... Sorry to hear you're dealing with that.
I feel somewhat the same. I'll help just about anyone out once if they really need it. But, they have to put forth an effort once the money hits their bank account to get their stuff together. Don't keep coming back to the same trough expecting a hand-out over and over.
Who said I’m ‘dealing’?!?!
Wrote both of them off years ago, before the rest of our families did - saved the wife & I a lot of $$$$ and heartache…..
Wife & I (mostly wife) donate a lot of time & $$$$ to local animal shelters (mostly $$$$) - the truly helpless and they can always use soap, towels, blankets, etc.
F#CK a physically able ‘sibling’ who could be working, contributing to society - actually, my brother seems to have turned his $#!T around and is doing O.K. - no thanks to me, and I’m proud of that…..