Fvck that. You give words too much power. When I got "Dre Day" blaring on my radio I will sing/rap along with the words as they were written...You guys are too damn sensitive and "politically correct" ... My Florida co-workers use to laugh and hate "sensitive and politically correct" people more than the blatant racist piece of shit patients we had because at least they were being "real" and not phonies. My co-workers were abused verbally on a daily basis. That is the thing with diseases like Dementia. These people can't hide their outright hate and ignorance. Instead of using a call bell some patient's would yell "here N***er N***er N***er....We would be saving a Pts lives and they would just be verbally abused and threatened. You have no clue how ugly it was on a daily basis. Never phased any of them from being compassionate and providing the best care. Well except one young tech. We were doing rounds and found him beating the fvck out of an old Redneck racist patient. I shit you not. We walked in and he was suplexing this guy. Hopefully, he is still in jail for elderly abuse.
Moral of the story(not directed at you two. Just a general statement I was told bothered past co-workers of mine when we would have race discussions) is don't try to put yourself in someone else's shoes and act like you lived what they go through when you haven't and have no clue what they have been through and never will have to go through what they have been through. Don't be a phony. For the record, the best Nurses and Doctor I worked with during my career were not "White." As I have said before, become a sponge and learn from everyone you come in contact with.