quantumleap
quantumleap
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I have a saying:look at YT videos on personal development and stuff.
Sadhguru, Alan watts, Julienhimself.....
u basically have to manage ur INNER self first, before u try to manage everything else EXTERNAL, which is not really in ur control anyways. That knowledge alone will set u free.
Happiness is overrated.
Now, being at peace with oneself, content, and practicing GRATIDUDE r more realistic goals.
GL to all that r in the constant downs,
I will leave u guys with 1 simple exercise , which will INSTANTLY make u feel better,
whenever ur in the down,
immediately name 5 things ur grateful for...
legs ? u have frikking legs,
dik ? u have a fkking dik
food to eat ? shelter ? internet ? etc. etc. could be anything.
u will instantly feel atleast 1 % better.
"Gratitude is one of the secrets to happiness."
It really helps us to realize that which we take for granted. Too many people, including myself, focus on problems because we're problem solvers. But being a problem solver can lead us down the road to where that's all we think about and that causes us to focus on the negative.
Forcing ourselves to take time out just to think of what we have, helps us get our focus back on the positive. But there's more, we can also think of how we missed so many bad things, things like poverty, malnutrition, homelessness. Once we realize the negative things we don't have the more grateful we become and the more content we become.
Then there's service to others which is a whole new topic. Depression causes one to focus on themselves, just like any pain. That's not necessarily a bad thing. Pain sometimes needs to have focus on ones self to remedy the pain. But too many times depressed person gets in that trap.
I used to work for a guy who was depressed. Part of his therapy was to do charity work for others. This helped him get outside the focus on himself and helped him realize that helping others gives you a sense of accomplishment and of importance.