Luckily for me, my wife had one ‘long term’ relationship, where she was ‘engaged’ (she broke it off almost immediately, never married), and we found out he OD’d like 2 years after we were married. Guy never came around, neither of us brought kids into the relationship/marriage, and we don’t have any kids.
I’m pretty fragile and jealous, I wouldn’t be able to handle a previous ‘suitor’ even in the same area code, let alone staying multiple nights in my house…..